He ’s on Today , he ’s got a newfangled book coming out , and he ’s ok with a ad-lib knack — as long as it does n’t pass too late .
Craig Melvin is a meddling guy : He ’s a constant on NBC ’s Today , he ’s gearing up to direct to Paris for the Summer Olympics in July , and he ’s the author of a new pic volume . At habitation , he ’s husband to sport newsman Lindsay Czarniak and dada to Delano , 10 , and Sybil , 7 . He recently welcomed a new puppy , Myles , to the family . He ’s even taken on a few cozy hobbies ( more on that later on ) . Amid all this , Melvin has turned his aid to make his home a sanctuary — and part of that is the rules , written or unwritten , that keep his household running .
While purely enforce house rules are n’t Melvin ’s style , he and his tight - knit family do live by a few guidelines that prioritize metre together — and typically lead to plenty of clock time spent laughing , too .
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Craig Melvin’s House Rules
forwards of the release ofCraig Melvin ’s new book , I’m Proud of You , on May 7 , he spoke with Better Homes & Gardens about his menage rule while he ’s at home , with his kinsfolk , and on the route .
Q: What are your house rules?
First of all , we are a shoes - on house .
Q: That’s unexpected!
Part of my reason why we ’re a shoes - on house : We have a puppy . I have a 10 - year - old . I have a seven - and - a - half - class - old . filth and clay come in the mansion — that ’s the least of our worries . In fact , I ’ve always thought that ’s a sign that a house is being inhabit in , you bang , you ’ve got a small dirt on the floor . It ’s a dependable sign these people are having playfulness , they ’re going out .
Q: Do you have any other house rules?
Most of these are probably unspoken . We do n’t have a inclination of houses prescript — you cognize what , that ’s in reality not genuine . [ There ’s ] a sign that we do have in our mudroom as you do in , but it ’s one of those ' Love often , laugh ' … It ’s one of those signaling . We have said those are the house regulation , but we do n’t really apply those .
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Q: Are there any you do enforce?
We eat together every night . When we ’re all there , it ’s sympathise that we sit around at the tabular array , no matter the days that we ’ve had — and some twenty-four hours are better than others . We sit there and we talk . We engage in respectable , old - fashioned conversation , and that ’s an unspoken rule .
Another regulation — and this is a function of the new puppy — we all enter in walking the cad . That was part of the plenty , whether it ’s out to the backyard or out for a walk . That ’s a menage principle .
Q: Do you have any rules that are just for the kids?
It ’s peculiar because sometimes they do change based on whether one child is being mean to the other . You be intimate , like sometimes it ’s , “ No shut up . We do n’t say shut up . ” That ’s a regulation : We do n’t say close up .
During the leaping and summer , another house formula is get outside . Two word of honor that I perfectly execrate : I ’m bored . How can you ? How can you be bored in a home with every board game ever manufactured ? You ’ve get picture games . You ’ve take your mother ’s pinball game machine that she had when she was a kid down in the cellar . You ’ve got every streaming service . You ’ve bring a basketball game basket out of doors , and your mom and dad have actually done OK in living , so venture what — you even have a pool ! And you ’re like “ I ’m blase . ” So yeah , get outside ’s a safe convention . [ Laughs ] guy . I ’m start to voice like my parents . I ’m like the old curmudgeon on the porch shake his clenched fist .
Everyone smile when they see Myles .
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Q: I love that you have rules about spending time with Myles.
In our house , he ’s the great uniter . It does n’t matter what anyone ’s going through that particular day . Everyone smiles when they see Myles — Myles Copper Melvin . Oh my good . And now that I just say that everyone smile when they see Myles … maybe that could be a children ’s book . [ Laughs ]
Q: Going back to your rule about eating together: Do you allow phones at the table during dinner?
Oh , blaze no . Hell no . My wife and I just had this conversation last week , because she and a radical of her mom friend in town have really galvanized around this idea of expect ’ til eight : No cell phones until the eighth grade . No social medium until they ’re 16 . And so we have , especially as they ’ve mother aged , we ’ve become acutely cognizant of how omnipresent these affair are . And so we go out of our way to endeavor to set our use in front of them , because Kid mime the behavior they see . And everyone ’s like , “ Oh my god , kid are on devices all the time now , blah , blah , blah . ” And I ’m like , of line they are . Because we all are , and they see us on it , and so it ’s like , “ Oh , Mom and Dad are doing it , let me . ” So no , no cellphones at the table . We limit their screen meter .
Q: And that applies to TV, too?
They get to watch , a given hebdomad , it ’s perhaps an 60 minutes on a filmdom . It ’s funny , because there ’s a differentiation that I make — I keep them off phones or the iPads . But if you desire to watch one of the TVs in the sign of the zodiac ? If you desire to watch Sports Center or whatever , I ’m fine with that . Watch what you want here , but it ’s got to be communal . I have to be able-bodied to see what you ’re watching .
A duet years ago , we started Melvin folk movie night — of course there ’s pizza pie involve — but we go around , and everyone take on a turning . My son always hates my girl ’s choice . My daughter always hates my son ’s pick . Everyone always hates Dad ’s pick , because I ’m like , " You chaff , you got ta watchStar warfare . " And they ’re like , " Oh my god , Dad , it ’s so old . The artwork , it does n’t even front actual . ” And I ’m like , “ Well , that ’s what makes it great , Guy . It ’s a classic narrative of good versus evil . ” But “ Dad , it ’s just so spoilt , ” and so I make them watch it . And guess what ? 10 moment in , they ’re okay .
Q: Any other rules?
We also go to church every Sunday . That ’s another prescript . And then we do brunch .
We spend a lot of clock time with our fry . We make a concerted effort to do it .
Q: It sounds like your family is really close.
We expend a pile of clip with our baby . We make a cooperative exploit to do it . A lot of it ’s structured time . But we do a lot of that . Again , it’s — now that I ’m say it out loud , I think that ’s a good affair .
We enjoy our shaver . And by that , I mean , they ’re of an age now where they have their own personalities and their own sentiency of style . And it ’s peculiar because sometimes I find myself laughing at one of my Logos ’s trick . Or when my daughter is mocking her brother or mocking me sometimes , I have to remember that I ’m a parent , that I should n’t be express joy . These child are actually kind of shady , they ’re kind of ingenious .
Q: So everyone’s following the same set of rules in your house.
We ’re all play by the same rules . [ Laughs ] There have been a couple of time — because we have really ingrained into them satisfactory and unacceptable speech and behavior , there are word that we do n’t allow in the house , but every now and then , if you do n’t know the shaver are around or you ’re really frustrated , and you accidentally flatten a “ damn , ” or , you have sex , something worse … What boggles the mind is how you could tell a child to do something or not do something and they wo n’t hear you for hours on end . And all of a sudden , they hear they learn you use one uncollectible word : “ Oh , Dad , I hear that . That was ' damn , ' you said ' damn . ' ”
Or my wife a couple of months ago , she slip up in the car . She was driving to school and someone cut her off or something . And to this day , the kids still institute it up : “ Mommy , remember ? recollect when you were drive ? ”
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Q: Your job takes you all over the world: When you’re traveling for work, how do you make where you’re staying feel like home while you’re there?
I ’ll do the Olympics in Paris ; it will be my fifth game . Every time I go , I take pictures of my wife and the kids , and I put them up in my room , which helps . I keep a digital movie anatomy around . It rotate through my motion-picture show . But also — I mean , listen , I was just railing against the immorality of the net and social medium . But FaceTime is a wondrous creative activity . So there ’s that as well .
Q: When you aren’t traveling, what makes your house feel like home?
I ’m really big into plants . [ Laughs ] We have a lot of plant in the menage . In our kitchen and our dining room together , we probably have 10 works . I ’ve got plant life in my position . I ’ve got plants in the chamber . In the basement , I ’ve got a wall of plants . As soon as you take the air into the house , there ’s plants in the lobby .
Now when you come into my family , you ’ll smell the candles that I ’ve made .
Q: Does scent or fragrance play a role in that feeling of home?
I ’m obsessed with candles . Obsessed . My wife , if you interviewed her separately , she would probably say I have a job .
Several months ago , I start making my own candles . I ’m not going through a midlife crisis . [ Laughs ] My healer suggested picking up a new hobby that involved my workforce , and he was like , “ What do you care ? ” I was like , “ I bonk candles . ” He ’s like , “ Well , you could make candles . ” I ’m like , “ No , you ca n’t . multitude do n’t make candles . ” And so long report poor , I buy some Christian Bible and went down the YouTube rabbit trap , and ever since then , I ’ve been making candles and endue them to booster and family .
In fact , as we ’re having this conversation , I ’m cauterize one of my wax light now . This is Bombshell . I do experiment with dissimilar scents and vessel and waxes . This was one I named after my mother . And the scent : It ’s poundcake . When we were uprise up , my mom bake pound patty , and so I tried to replicate that scent . So now when you derive into my theatre , you ’ll reek the candles that I ’ve made .
They burn all over the firm : in our bedchamber , in the bath , in the kitchen , in my office . It has become wretchedly inordinate , as my wife will manifest , but I chance the candle - making physical process cathartic .
Q: Speaking of coming into your house, do you host guests very often?
Because of the schedule and because of the travel , we do n’t host belike as often as my wife would wish for us to , but we make out a good , older - fashioned dinner party political party .
And I ’ll tell you what else I savour even more : We call them spontaneous hang . You ’re sitting around Saturday or Sunday , game ’s on , not really doing a whole lot . And sometimes my son will be like , “ Hey , can my friend come over ? ” And I ’m like , “ certain , have him amount over , get in the pool . ” The next affair you recognize , his parent are coming down the street . And now all of a sudden you ’re sitting there and having a couple of beers or a glass of wine , and you ’re watching the game , and it ’s like , how did this pass ? Oh , it ’s a spontaneous hang . Those are the best .
Q: Is there anything a house guest might do that makes sure they don’t get invited back?
I get up so early during the workweek . Nothing bothers me more than if we ’re having masses over during the calendar week , and they know what time I have to get up , and they ’re advert out or pouring themselves another glass of wine at 8:30 . They ’re asking me for a beer at nine o’clock . I ’m wish , “ Really ? You want a nine o’clock beer in this sign ? Buddy , it was your last one . ” That ’s a surefire elbow room to not get invited back .
Q: Then what’s the secret to making sure you do get invited back?
People who get laid me well or know us well , they show up with one of two thing : a bottle of scarlet wine-colored or a nice — I call it the brown ambrosia of the deity — a nice nursing bottle of bourbon . Those are the sept who always get invited back .
Q: It sounds like you really value your time at home.
I have find , as the kids have gotten one-time , as I ’ve stimulate honest-to-goodness — we’ve been espouse 13 year now — the home should be a sanctuary , yes . And I do n’t think it ’s a coincidence that as more pandemonium swirls around us , the longer I ’ve hide that pandemonium , the more committed I seem to have become to making certain that my home is chaos - free . That it is this beautiful , pleasant - reek green space . Yes . I call up there ’s probably a correlation between the two .
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Craig Melvin ’s unexampled moving-picture show book , I’m Proud of You , with illustrations by Sawyer Cloud , is available for leverage now .
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